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Strength

I am always fascinated how people remind me of my faults. Like its news to me. It may be news to some, but I am not that young and naive to not know mine.

Which makes me wonder about how we really view strength in life. How are the two related?
Good question.

After much obseravation in and around my life. By this, I mean watching people go through and action things. I realise daily that true strength is not actually a common thing. In fact I would go as far to say that true strength is not even celebrated or embraced anymore.

What we call strength is really…….

fake brick

I know our perceptions rule us, that is a given in life, but what we call strength is really just intimidation and illusion. I see it around me all the time. And the really cunning use this to their advantage. Which is not a good thing, but what do we expect? Life is not fair and as someone pointed out over facebook the reason for the unfairness is us. We often mistreat people and want our own way to the detriment of others around us, and get most upset when that in turn happens to us.

What I would like to state though is that true strength, and I mean genuine strength only comes from knowing your what your weaknesses are. As in the picture. It appears that the wall is brick and has the strength of bricks, but really its wood and does not contain the strength properties that brick and mortar has. But if you simply took it at face value you would expect it to give support and take the knocks that brick walls can take.

Of course you will be rudely disappointed won’t you? I see in business how the fast talkers and those who “shoot from the hip” succeed. But never for too long. Because as Bob Marley says

“You can fool some people some times but you cant fool all the people all the time”

? Bob Marley

I watch women go after guys, that appear to have what they want……. Only to be largely hurt and extremely disillusioned a few months/years after that.

The reason?

Could not determine what real strength looks like. I am not saying one must wallow in your weaknesses, thats just dumb. When you are broken or have been broken down by something, its then when you discover true strength. And when you can build on a proper foundation. If your strength and sole strength comes from intimidation and illusion, you will thrive….. for a while.

I see guys run after women and after a while they wonder how they got themselves into that one…. They saw strength or at least they thought they did. Only to discover a false wall, called intimidation and illusion.

Because this world is broken and those that can manipulate and present themselves “properly” can deceive you.
But I assure you over time, true strength comes through. It is something we hate, because you simply cannot see these things at a glimpse. It takes time.
Simply because its pure and has the right intentions.

So how do we recognise true strength? Let me leave it with a quote that I am sure you can adapt the meaning to this topic.

“The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.” Ernest Hemingway

In my opinion, people who can never admit to having weaknesses, you should be on guard rather than marvel. I am always waiting for the lightning to strike. So I walk a few steps behind them. Lol…..

What I would like to leave you with is simply, what appears to be the right thing is not always the right thing. And what we are completely convinced of is not always the real thing. Take a look into history and see how people were persecuted and ridiculed for what they believed to be true and were willing to stick to their story. They paid huge prices for that beliefs. Some even lost their lives. Today we celebrate that truths and even the people. They were strong, really strong, but then it looked like weakness……..

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thehonestone

community is a……dancer…

Please watch this first if you can.

I am one of those people that always seem to have music around me in life. Be it listening as driving, while working on a pc or even while doing the events we normally do.
Life should have a sound track right?

I think music is a great catalyst, and we see that go both ways. Good and bad. I have also had the misfortune of being around dance my entire life. Just kidding, not sure whether it was good or bad, since I have 2 left feet and have never found freedom in dancing myself. My mother and sister did ballet though, so ever since I was able to remember anything I was dragged to Eisteddfods and this dance and that performance.
It never escaped me. When it came to churches they danced there too.

When I eventually started working, guess what? Dance followed me….. Contemporary, Jazz, abstract (this is by far the worse kind to work with).

I joined a theatre (what on earth was I thinking????) Ballet, abstract to the nth degree, contemporary, you name it it was all there.

But to the point of the video above. I wanted to point out that life is like a dance. And I have been a huge believer that community around us is made of strong individuals. And we see that in the video. The performance is one unit, but many individuals. Which is a lot like how life is meant to be lived.
We don’t see that dazed look on any of the dancers….. You know that look… The one that goes “what on earth is the next move?”

dancer

Now I promise you I have seen that before, Although I find it hilarious, its a massive distraction and very noticeable. When the performance is good, when they all practised and know their part and bring it on stage. If they have an issue they focus on the director. The person next to them cannot help, they do not see the whole picture. Look the person next to you can assist if you stumble or fall, but they cannot fix your problem if your steps are wrong.

Now I am not one to agree with Shakespeare, that all the world is a stage. But there are preparation phases and implementation phases. When one implements something it is similar to a perfomance.

What I would like you to see is, the reason for community break down and why we suffer the break down in communication and I can go on and on.
If you as an individual focused on your part and “practised”, the collective would be stronger. If you live your dream, and all the traumas that brings with it, the community around it benefits as well.

You see it clearly in a choreographed dance like in the video. If you have only one that is unsure it affects the whole.

Community life is very much like a dance. It takes a lot of strong individuals to make it a healthy one. So the big question is where to find these healthy communities?????

Very easy to answer, become a healthy individual and follow what is inside of you. I promise you the outside environment will change.

I see so many people looking for answers in all the wrong places. And here I include myself. I am not saying we should never seek advice, but to make your decisions solely up to the advice you get, is rather dangerous.

If one looks at celebrities that go broke, after having millions and millions at their disposal, they lost it. How????
They handed the decisions to other people. They did not keep in touch with what was their responsibility.

You want to fix the world around you, change yourself and you will see the world change in front of you.

the honest one