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that’s so racist….

noun: racist; plural noun: racists

a person who believes that a particular race is superior to another.
synonyms: racial bigot, racialist, xenophobe, chauvinist, supremacist More
“he was exposed as a racist”
(racially) discriminatory, racialist, prejudiced, bigoted
“a racist society”

noun: racist; plural noun: racists; adjective: racist

having or showing the belief that a particular race is superior to another.
“we are investigating complaints about racist abuse at the club”

It fascinates me how often I get accused of being a racist. Or at least my comments get called “that’s so racist”. Which sets it up for “you’re so racist”.


Now, I have my opinions in life. But since saying “Black people are…..” does that mean racism. Or when I say “white people are…..”. If they are that way then its simply a comment of an observation. Right?

Now if I said they are this and that alluding to the fact that I am better than them, well then that is racist.

I find that because of our past in South Africa, we are very sensitive when it comes to the mention of colour. Now commenting and saying a statement like ” Black people eat a lot of fried chicken” is a true statement. Does it mean I am looking down on them for that? Because that would be a racist thought.
But making the comment does not assume racist thoughts. Its merely a statement based on observation.

I could just as easily say “Coloured people love gatsbies” which is true. Generally speaking of course. “White people have strange finger foods and have nibbles for food”. Does it mean my view is better?

I am of the belief that true unity comes from accepting the differences. Rather than having a society that never mentions colour (but thinks it). When we learn that we are all different, and that it is okay to be different.

Fundamentally however, I have never grasped racism. When I think and look at it from every angle. I cannot seem to see how it fits in humanity. Intellectually it makes no sense. Our skin colour is just that, skin colour. Behaviour is not determined by your skin colour. It is how you grow up.

I say this because I still experience it internally. When I walk into a room that is filled with white people, there is a slight tension. I cannot explain it, and of course one can never say anything……because that would be racist…..lol:)

Or when white people talk to me, I mean those ones that don’t really engage with coloured people on a day to basis. They talk slowly and softer. I think they afraid to offend me. Little do they know the string of comments coming their way. I have found that I can say black and coloured and white……but they cannot. 🙂
And I use this to my advantage. Okay so maybe not so much, and one should really use opportunities when they come across one’s path, Correct?

So if you think you better than the next person and that person seems to be of a different colour persuasion, then you are a racist. Bask in it. Not a good thing, but you have to be honest with yourself.

So my friends and others of the lighter and darker persuasion, I do not think I am better than you. I will however comment on your mannerisms. You may too.

But let us all get to know and embrace the differences as just that, differences.

the honest one

Sticks and stones….But names will never……

I suppose we all know the old saying “Sticks and stones can hurt my bones, but names will never hurt me…” Could not be further from the truth hey….

If anything the names will hurt you in a far more vivid manner and could cause you life long pain rather than being physically hurt. We spend way more time nursing our inner wounds than we do our outer ones.

Which brings me to our country’s current trending topics. RACISM. I can think of 3 separate occurrences that have happened in the last few months that sparked a nationwide comment frenzy and reaction.

First being the Grabouw incident where Black and Coloured (mixed race) fought over their differences.

I think of Jessica Leandra (the FHM model) that made her “racial” comment on twitter that caused her to lose her sponsorship (ridiculous don’t you think?) check it out here

Ken Sinclair’s comment on facebook has caused him to be suspended. Check it out

Reading about all this has made me quite happy……I know, I know you may think me to be some weird and sadistic, but if you give me a moment you might just agree…
IMO, South Africa changed far too quickly. If we want any form of lasting change in our lives, they normally come over long periods of time and with much trauma. Also any form of real change has to be from the inside out and a collective decision.
That was not the case here, too many things hinged off one thing, Mandela’s reaction. But since he came out with a non violent approach, no one dared approach it with any form of violence. Look I am not saying that what he did was not a great thing, but people had anger and anger unexpressed evolves into all sorts of strange outworkings. But nevertheless, South Africa did have change, and the world took note.

But mostly what the people here had was a knee jerk reaction. Now even simple words were taken out of context and everyone avoids the possibility of having the idea that they could be a racist. Even if one is one, no one will dare say it aloud. For obvious reasons don’t you think.

You stand to lose a lot by declaring your honest opinion. I am not saying we are all racist, I just mean that beliefs do not disappear simply because we want them to go. Some people are in fact prejudiced still and that will take time to change. But change never comes without fights and differences of opinion, it means a healthy approach. In some cases it may have just been better to fight it out rather than have the silence…..Silence is only good if the issues inside are dealt with. And to deal with the issues you have to be honest. I think as a nation we finally getting to the point of honesty. (at least the start)

Why I say I am happy about the people’s racial comments and actions, well, they are being honest. And it means that for once we are not sugar coating our real selves. I do think its ridiculous for the student to be suspended and for the model to lose her sponsorship, I think its an overreaction, but hey that’s just me. We all make mistakes and we all have our little beliefs that others would find offensive. But to imply that no one else thinks that way, well…… And the people in question did try and bring restitution after the events. To me that settles it. On the plus side, I have never seen so many comments on articles by South Africans….so I am quite happy that people are willing to give their opinions.

Ooh and another proud moment for me as a South African is when the Etoll story came to a grinding halt.

I have never seen such unified actions by our people.
I think we are at a good starting place for now…..

the Honest One