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What women need…part 2

Here we start the second part today (with one more left in this series)

Here we go, Leaan Delport part 2, in case you never checked out her blog you can find it here. I will step aside and just continue the post…

TO BE CHERISHED

So this is close to Love, but to be cherished is something deep and profound that is comes across in a man’s demeanour and way towards his girlfriend/wife. It comes across in the “small things” – possibly opening the door for a lady to walk first, the gentlemanly stuff you know, or making the effort to listen to the fine-print in her tone of voice to understand her and love her the way she desires to be loved. To us, these are HUGE things, not small at all. If your intentions are pure and you pay attention to this advice, you should have no problem having a humble, compliant and supportive lady at your side, permitted she is open to be loved. Love makes a lady supportive – that’s just how it works. A woman reflects a man’s way toward her wherever she goes.

TO BE AND FEEL SECURE

When a woman says “yes” to any form of romantic relationship, she is saying “yes, I will let you love me and lead me, I will trust you with my heart”. This is a daunting thing. Areas she would’ve managed or tried to manage herself in her life now becomes open to his leadership and way. This is something that needs to be realized and handled with care on the male’s side; this privilege is to be cherished. Please NEVER take a woman’s trust in you for granted. Treat it carefully, treat her trust and belief in you like a precious jewel, keep it safe, honor her. Commitment from the male towards her is one thing that adds to the security she feels in the relationship. Providing (though this is not summed up in finances these days like in the past, it’s more a state of being, providing as a male figure in things only the male figure can – leadership, decision-making awareness, responsibility for his actions (or for the family possibly), etc. A woman needs to feel cared for and feels secure when she knows she is cared for, this is affirmed by a male’s actions and words towards her in this regard. Feeling secure comes in during those times when there are challenges from outside the relationship and the lady has trusted you with the main leadership aspect. It is important to talk about such things, communicate mutual fears and comfort and encourage each other (be a team). This makes her (and you also) feel secure in the face of adversity. Neglecting to communicate at such times is often to the detriment of many relationships.

I hope I have communicated some of the essentials of what women need appropriately.

(End of part two)

As always please comment.

the Honest One

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What men need……..

I have been toying around the idea of writing a post about what men need to look for in women….

I could not get to grips with writing it without creating a war with women. Its strictly for guys eyes only. And since the internet allows everyone to peruse info, and I am sure the ladies would read it either way.

So the only way I reckon it can work, is if the guys out there want that info, let me know via comments and I will email it to you. Should you take me up on the offer, well then keep it to your self hey, no need to let our secrets out of the bag.

Anyway that’s not what I chose to write the post about today. These days there is simply no shortage of books, articles, blogs about what men and women want. But upon reflection I realised………it was due to the current “me focused” culture that we have that big question. So far be it for me to add to the vast amounts of drivel in the wild west of relationship advice. I think the more pertinent question should be, “What do we need?”

Relationships seems to have denigrated into what we get out of them, and therefore we tend to look at what we want out of it. There is nothing wrong per say in wanting stuff. But I think the focus and initial thought should be, What do we bring into it?

Seems fairly minor hey, but it shifts the focus and responsibility. If I express what I need, it absolves the other person from having to provide it for me. When I want something, it demands it from the person the want is made known to.
Now that I got that cleared, since I am a man I wanted to express what I think men need…..

Respect
I cannot stress that enough. Men need to be respected for who they are. I suppose I should throw this one in here….most men know their failing areas. THEY DO NOT NEED IT SHOUTED OVER A LOUD HAILER.
****News flash****, no matter how one nags, it never produces the results desired or in the time frame desired. Bribe the man or use your clever wily ways rather, but nagging helps nothing at all.

Support
We appear strong and independent, but really we are in need of constant support. There is something that is switched on in a man, when he is supported by the woman in his life (I mean the genuine kind and not the support “because that is what you are supposed to do”)

Food er, um, er well we all know the other one hey (since this blog is kiddy friendly I won’t say it aloud…hint (yes it is the 3 letter word you thinking of right now)

He he he, I had to throw that one in there. Enough said

Belief Faith

We need people to believe us and in us. I cannot express how much it means to us when our dreams are believed and helped (especially by a wife/girlfriend/female friend). When its brought out in a way only a woman can…..

Love

I guess this is a foregone conclusion. But it depends on how love is expressed. Men need to know that people are there for them. We go to hilarious lengths to ensure that this exists in our lives. I will point out the ridiculous antics guys get up to and bets they make with other guys.

Conclusion

There is not much more to say other than there is no real secrets, mostly what you see is what you get (WYSIWYG) and what we say is generally what we mean. There are no “other meanings” behind what we say. When we go for coffee, we go drink coffee.
We are very simplistic beings and therefore I will not continue to drag out a topic that is explained in full already ha ha ha.

My aim here is for us to forget what “we want”. And to realise that we need to bring something to the table rather. And on that note I will leave you to ponder on this…..

I do however leave a space open for a woman to submit a “what women need” here. You can email it to me and I will post it for you or if you blog you can send me a link and I will send it out. Fair enough.

Because in relationships there are always 2 sides hey 🙂

***DISCLAIMER***When I say secrets in the early parts of the post, they refer to the stuff men know about women and not secrets that men have. The secrets that men know about women but will never let them know what it is that they know.

the Honest One