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Strength

I am always fascinated how people remind me of my faults. Like its news to me. It may be news to some, but I am not that young and naive to not know mine.

Which makes me wonder about how we really view strength in life. How are the two related?
Good question.

After much obseravation in and around my life. By this, I mean watching people go through and action things. I realise daily that true strength is not actually a common thing. In fact I would go as far to say that true strength is not even celebrated or embraced anymore.

What we call strength is really…….

fake brick

I know our perceptions rule us, that is a given in life, but what we call strength is really just intimidation and illusion. I see it around me all the time. And the really cunning use this to their advantage. Which is not a good thing, but what do we expect? Life is not fair and as someone pointed out over facebook the reason for the unfairness is us. We often mistreat people and want our own way to the detriment of others around us, and get most upset when that in turn happens to us.

What I would like to state though is that true strength, and I mean genuine strength only comes from knowing your what your weaknesses are. As in the picture. It appears that the wall is brick and has the strength of bricks, but really its wood and does not contain the strength properties that brick and mortar has. But if you simply took it at face value you would expect it to give support and take the knocks that brick walls can take.

Of course you will be rudely disappointed won’t you? I see in business how the fast talkers and those who “shoot from the hip” succeed. But never for too long. Because as Bob Marley says

“You can fool some people some times but you cant fool all the people all the time”

? Bob Marley

I watch women go after guys, that appear to have what they want……. Only to be largely hurt and extremely disillusioned a few months/years after that.

The reason?

Could not determine what real strength looks like. I am not saying one must wallow in your weaknesses, thats just dumb. When you are broken or have been broken down by something, its then when you discover true strength. And when you can build on a proper foundation. If your strength and sole strength comes from intimidation and illusion, you will thrive….. for a while.

I see guys run after women and after a while they wonder how they got themselves into that one…. They saw strength or at least they thought they did. Only to discover a false wall, called intimidation and illusion.

Because this world is broken and those that can manipulate and present themselves “properly” can deceive you.
But I assure you over time, true strength comes through. It is something we hate, because you simply cannot see these things at a glimpse. It takes time.
Simply because its pure and has the right intentions.

So how do we recognise true strength? Let me leave it with a quote that I am sure you can adapt the meaning to this topic.

“The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.” Ernest Hemingway

In my opinion, people who can never admit to having weaknesses, you should be on guard rather than marvel. I am always waiting for the lightning to strike. So I walk a few steps behind them. Lol…..

What I would like to leave you with is simply, what appears to be the right thing is not always the right thing. And what we are completely convinced of is not always the real thing. Take a look into history and see how people were persecuted and ridiculed for what they believed to be true and were willing to stick to their story. They paid huge prices for that beliefs. Some even lost their lives. Today we celebrate that truths and even the people. They were strong, really strong, but then it looked like weakness……..

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The Painting

I once heard a story during a sermon [on the very rare occasions I listen to them :)].

There was this guy staring at a painting, but he was quite close to it. As a friend came to ask him what he was doing, the guy responded that he was trying to see the beauty in the painting but the more he looked, the more confused he got and seemed to not see what others saw. The friend said, take a few steps back. Problem solved.

Sometimes we cannot see the beauty in life. We can’t, because we are too close. Or we are zooming into the things with microscopic accuracy. Yes, we see the tiny faults, but that is not what we should be focusing on at the time. One can never see the full picture by being too close to it.

When we zoom in we see the faults

When we step back and see the whole picture, we see the beauty

And we do that in life too, normally with the people close to us. We see the faults, because we so “zoomed in” all the time. When we zoomed in we normally have to work harder to see the beauty in the everyday things. We scurry around and try to get over our irritations.
Maybe its time to step back to see the full picture. Get to know the people around us better and in different environments to which we currently know them.

Also as we start this year, may we look at the bigger picture and not be so “zoomed in”. Take the time to step back and look at the bigger picture.

the Honest One