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The confines of your own beliefs

As we enter 2014, there are so many things going on and life is moving on rapidly. I thought it would be good to focus on what really rules us.

Our beliefs, correct? Whether we like it or not, whether we say so or not, our beliefs rule our actions. We can try and control it, hide it, flaunt it, correct it, but your beliefs will always surface whether intentionally or not. And that may not be a bad thing, but when the real underlying beliefs do not match up with the proposed reality of what we say (and we are normally the last to see this hey). What are we to do then????

And we take a look around us, we will notice that we also tend to stick around people who have similar beliefs….

Scary hey, we tend to live in the confines of our own beliefs. We don’t stray easily. We tend to only live what we know and not stray out of the confines of our already cemented beliefs. It takes courage, bravery and simple faith to step out of this………

What I ask though is, are you willing to step out of the confines of your beliefs? Will you venture into a world where you may not fully understand everything, and it is okay to be that way???

And do we do this in  every area in life? Our relationships? Our jobs? Our Recreation?

I want us to be able to explore the different things in life by having an open approach. I am not meaning doing stuff we know we hate, but not discarding new things simply because we refuse to fight that complacent nature in our inner being. 

I want us to fight our own mouth, and shock it by living what we speak. Take ourselves seriously and also know when to be light hearted.

2014, let it be the year you become you…..









The Bedrock of Life…

Whatever you believe to to be true is true…..right?

To a certain extent I can agree with that.
We all live what we believe, and whether we like it or not its pretty much what rules us. It is the reason I call it the bedrock of life. It is what rules us and where we live from.

Now you could say that I am wrong, but think about it. Let’s for argument sake say that a girl tells a guy that
she loves him and he is the only one for him,
but the very next week she is out flirting with any guy she can find..

What she is saying with her mouth is really not what she believes. She may want to believe it, but she really is still looking.

What I noticed over time is that people say manyt things, but ultimately they will act what they truly believe.

Jumping back to the start of this post, let’s explore the “whatever I believe to be true”

I suppose what I mean is that whatever you believe to be true will be your reality that you live in. In that sense its your truth, because you validate
it by your actions.

But is it really true?

Do you really believe? Are you trapped in a circumstantial approach to life?

How do we escape this dilemma?

Well the only way is to be true to who you are…. No matter what the cost and live from the inside out…


Hollow head syndrome and some reduction….revisited…

“If a wise book hits a hollow head….its no fault of the book”.

I am not sure of the origin of the saying, but I agree.
I wrote about this already, but I felt it needed to be revisited.

Most of us are what we could call reductionists. I mean that very loosely to what the actual term describes.
Since most of us think about ourselves most often than any other person (come on you can be honest here)
This means we often interpret things that happen and apply the things in a way that applies to our situation or life season.

Its what I call hollow head syndrome.

To explain, many things come our way in life, and most of them are bigger than what we are at that moment. We mostly never see it because we so focused on what we are going through and experiencing that we miss the full lesson. The result????

We tend to circle around an area until we “get it”.

Our approach in that way would be to reduce whats happening to how it affects us. Right? Few people go onto the bigger reality that is happening at the time. We tend to be hollow heads when we refuse to acknowledge that something coming our way means we can approach it in order to shape us and help us. Regardless of where we are in life at that time.

We can allow the “wise book” to knock us over to teach us. Rather than challenging the “book” which is clearly older than we are. (just in case you wondering I am not specifically referring to the bible here)
I want people to realise that most things that happen, they do not happen to you. They happen, and you decide how this affects you or you decide if it shapes you. And for arguments sake let’s say the “wise book’ is a situation that is new to you.

I hope you get what I am saying here. Sometimes we do not realise the thing that is happening at the time that we are going through it, we simply reduce it to what we understand at the moment.

People do this all over. With scripture, in life, at work, in relationships….
We never give over to the largeness of the possible outcome.

Meaning that we mostly never embrace the possibility that we can be wrong and change our actions. We normally defend our position (mostly to our detriment).

Maybe, just maybe if we approach it properly we may just get it sooner than later.
I will leave you with one of my favourite sayings…..
“Never argue with an idiot…they drag you down to their level and proceed to beat you with experience.”

the Honest One


“There is no such thing as a perfect church”

“There is no such thing as the perfect person”

“There is no such thing as the perfect job”

“There is no such thing as the perfect …..”

Those are phrases we hear all the time. At least I hear them. And it always makes me wonder, if this is the the truth or has this particular person just settled……

True perfection, as in no faults, I will concede does not exist here, but a perfect job? I think that exists, a perfect person to share your life with, I think that exists. “For you” is what I mean.

Someone who is good for me (perfect). A job that is good and right for me I consider perfect for me.

I think what I am getting at here is that we often settle in life because we believe that perfection does not exist out there, therefore we settle for the less than good one (of whatever).

That does not mean that the current person or thing is intrinsically bad, just bad for you.

I could be wrong, but I really think that that type of perfection does exist. And I get that true happiness is from within, but at the same time do we just accept that everything around us just is…..

Any thoughts?