I am not sure if anyone reading this has ever setup a mix for a band on stage, from the ground up.
One normally starts with the rhythm section and build a base from there and then we move onto the extra frilly stuff like percussion and whatever fillers we have. Last we add the vocals (the melody). If that rhythm section is not built and sitting correct, you end up with a sloppy mix, one could call it a conflicting mix. It will sound like the instruments are fighting each other.
The mix you could either plod along with or you can try and solve it.
It might sound bad, but sometimes its the most simplest thing causing the conflict. Its not so easy to identify though.
What it usually entails is simply stripping it down to the basics, to fix the rhythm section. And adding everything together piece by piece. Until we have a good blend.
Our lives are like that too. Conflict and issues warn us that something is wrong. Our foundations may not be good. But in order to fix the problem, sometimes it will get worse before it gets better.
We have to be honest and admit that there is a conflict happening first, and then be willing to work on it. We all want our lives to be a good blend, a moving song, but we don’t always have that do we?
I know a lot of us simply avoid conflict, we never deal with things upfront, we will rather run away or simply pretend that nothing is wrong. But that is like leaving the song going with an irritating noise that no one can quite put their finger on, but the noise is there somewhere.
Why not just deal with the conflict and find out if your foundations are screaming at you…..